Helpful Links


For Men

PFLAG– National organization for families and friends of LGBTQ people. Over 400+ chapters with support meetings in almost all 50 states.

COLAGE– youth organization for children of LGBTQ parents with active chapters in major US/Canadian cities.

American Psychological Association: Research Summary on Lesbian and Gay Parenting

American Civil Liberties Union: Lesbian & Gay Rights

Previously Married Gay Fathers Nationwide – A Secret Facebook Group (you can’t find it in a search and it won’t show up in your public list of groups after you join). Membership requests are vetted by sending an e-mail to: Please introduce yourself, describe how you found out about the group and why you wish to join. The discussions are at times light-hearted or playful and at other times extremely serious or supportive in this group.

Empty Closets – Everyone wonders who they are, but not everyone is brave enough to seek the answer. Empty Closets is a place where you can figure out who you are, surrounded by other people just like you. Whether you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, curious, unsure or a friend of someone who is, Empty Closets will help you find the answer. We welcome new members of all ages from 13 upwards. You can join in with a wide range of discussions or start your own, a chat room, useful articles and links. Members can also create their own galleries and blogs.

It Gets Better – Targeted to youth facing daily tormenting and bullying, leading them to feel like they have nowhere to turn.

The Gay Dad Project – Intended to be a place for conversation about families, not exclusive to families with gay dads. They aim to connect other children and families who are going through, or have gone through, having a parent come out as LGBTQ.

HUSBANDS OUT TO THEIR WIVES A moderated e-mail list that serves bisexual and gay members who are married, partnered, separated, divorced, or in the process of getting a divorce. A few members are not out to their spouses or partners, but want support for how to tell them and their children. Registration is required.

FORUM FOR MARRIED BI MEN A moderated Yahoo! Group for married or partnered bisexual men where they discuss their relationships.
Warning: picture on home page contains nudity. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

CLOSED-LOOP RELATIONSHIPS A moderated Yahoo! Group for men who are in closed-loop relationships. A closed-loop relationship consists of a female spouse or partner and two men, at least one of whom is married or partnered, in a separate committed relationship. Once established the relationship is exclusive. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

GAY MARRIED MEN GROUP A moderated Yahoo! Group where gay married or partnered men meet to talk and to support each other. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

Addiction Center : Members of the LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer) community face a number of challenges that have contributed to a high rate of addiction.

For Wives

StraightForward– Online (Facebook) community for heterosexual partners of people who have come out as LGBTQ. (Moderated by licensed therapist & straight spouse.)

STRAIGHT SPOUSE NETWORK A website for heterosexual spouses and partners, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender partners that provides support and information for help in resolving coming-out issues for all family members.

STRAIGHT SPOUSES A moderated, confidential email list exclusively for straight spouses of bisexual, gay, or lesbian partners who are trying to keep their relationships intact and for those couples who are separating or divorcing, for keeping their relationship friendly and positive. 

STRAIGHT SPOUSES IN MIXED ORIENTATION RELATIONSHIPS A moderated, confidential email list exclusively for straight male and female spouses or partners of bisexual/gay/lesbian partners who are working to strengthen their relationships. 

ALTERNATE PATH A moderated Yahoo! Group for wives of gay or bisexual men who are seeking alternative solutions to divorce or separation. Yahoo! Group registration required.

WIVES OF BI/GAY HUSBANDS A moderated Yahoo! Group exclusively for girlfriends, wives, and ex-wives of bisexual or gay men. Members network and explore the full range of emotions that are involved in the coming out process for the straight spouse. Yahoo! Group registration required.

Local and Culture Specific Organizations

Gay Fathers of______: Local support groups for gay/bi-sexual men who are married, separated, or divorced.(Please let us know of any chapters we missed!)





Our Family Coalition – Organization in the San Francisco/Bay Area for LGBTQ families.

Affirmation – Fathers in Affirmation – This group is open to all within the Mormon community who identify as a father or those wanting to be a father who are gay, bi, trans, questioning, or SSA.